(GL)Nihon wrote:Usually they are having it bad at home, that's why they are bullying.
I disagree. Two gradstudents in social studies (Lund university) publiched an examination paper about bullying in 2004. One of the later studies in the paper is made 2001, and the author behind that publication means that the person bullying often have high regards of him-/her self.
On the other hand, that person also sais that there are two main trades that is seen in bullies. One is the to hard/to little love situation. The other one (that I think is more common if I look at todays parents in Sweden) is the fact that parents no longer can/want/*... to diciplin their children and therefor the children never learns right from wrong.
http://lup.lub.lu.se/luur/download?func ... Id=1359340I can try anf find more up to date papers in the subject, but I doubt it will say anything else
My mom allways told me that I'm better then the bullies. After 6 years in two different schools that's not enough. What should be done is to put preassure on the teachers. I still remember one of my teachers when I was 12-13 years old. I went to him and asked him to help me with one of my classmates. I'd been paired with this person for the length of one lesson to clean up on the schoolyard (like everyone else). He called me whore, cunt, clean for me woman, more cunt... My teachers answer was that I needed to have more patience with this person.
No one cared when someone put a athwart swaztika on my locker with a permanent marker, or when one of my classmates kicked me on my tail bone, when my classmates yelled thief/whore/... down the halways in a volume that made half the school hear them.
My bf worked as a teacher for 1-2 years among stundets at the age 14-15 years old. What he told me about school then (the beginning of -90) is exactly the same thing I saw 10 years later. Teachers are not willing to help. They turn a blind eye to the problem, puts them self in one spot and never moves away from it. Every trick in the book you can come up with, they use to be able to escape responsibility.
What to teach your kids? How to stop a bully. The most effective. Kids allways see what's going on. What is effective? Make fun of the bullies. Make their friends laugh at them. Like an example my bf told me.
Some of his students had a habit of "swagging" the chair. When he got tired of it, he went to them, put a foot at the leg of the chair and pulled the legs out from under it. The kid fell to the floor and he made fun of him infront of the hole class. "ha ha ha, you can't sit on a chair... What are you doing on the floor crawling..." and stuff like that. Then it wasn't fun to swag the chair anymore.
An other example was that one girl in one class was bullied, and she was pretty smart. One time after a test, one of her classmates called her stupied. My bf started to whrite the the order of how high there scores had been on the charkboard. Started with the best result first. When he had come down to the person who called the girl stupied he said "she scored 3rd best on the test. You're only at place (way lower down). I wonder who is stupied?"
In the end that became a sunshine story. She and her worst bully became a couple during senior highschool. He stopped bullying her, she help him with schoolwork, they became friends...
Learn your kids to love themselves, have a backbone, never be afraid of saying stop!/no.
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